How Our Negative Beliefs Get in the Way of Achieving Big Things in Life

Our beliefs are formed by what we learned from our parents and what we have learned through personal

experiences. They even include things we have learned from others, and those beliefs become part of our identity. They can either help us move forward, or they can hold us back from seeing and fulfilling our true potential. We all have our own concept of the world. Your concept of the world, for example, is different from mine, but we all know how we see things and the way we feel about things. Every day we are being influenced by different entities, such as the media, friends, family, and even coworkers or strangers you meet in a coffee shop. We form our beliefs from what influences us, but it is up to each one of us to decide what beliefs we keep and what beliefs we allow to influence our every move. Our strongly held beliefs drive us to take action, and you have to choose the beliefs that challenge you and move you forward instead of holding you back.

All beliefs whether they are positive or negative exist for a reason. Some act as comfortable protective armor because they protect us from getting hurt. For example, let's say you have always had bad luck regarding relationships. Every guy you have met cheated on you, always lied to you, and maybe even treated you badly. Because of those experiences, you developed a negative mind-set concerning relationships, and it might be something like the following: "Every guy I meet turns out to be a loser. They all lie and cheat on me. No guy ever treats me right." Such thinking will keep you from ever meeting the right guy because you have already decided that the next guy you meet will be just like all these other guys. Even though such negative thinking will sabotage you from meeting the guy of your dreams, it also acts as a protective barrier because you already expect that something bad will happen. Accordingly, you won't allow yourself to let your guard down because the guy might not be the type of guy you expect. All these negative thoughts or beliefs take root on a subconscious level, and most people use limiting beliefs because it keeps them safe in their comfort zone. We have all done it!

Our actions today are influenced by interpretations we have made in the past, both positive and negative. Our most limiting beliefs about ourselves may get in the way of any actions we need to take to move forward and accomplish what we want to achieve. If we believe we are not smart enough to get that job we want so badly or that we are not pretty enough to meet our soul mate, then we basically give ourselves permission to not even try. If we believe that all men or women we meet or date are cheaters, liars, and simply no good, we will end up building that protective barrier around ourselves to protect us from getting hurt. Such limits may protect us, but in reality they are very limiting because they keep us from ever being in a happy relationship.

Anthony Robbins said: "Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy."

Our beliefs are what determine our life and the things we want. They create that reality. Who we are is based on our beliefs, and they determine our behavior, our feelings, and our thoughts.

The Subconscious Mind

The way our mind works is pretty simple. It consists of two parts: the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. Think of it as an iceberg where the top 10 percent that you see above the water is your conscious mind. The other 90 percent of the iceberg that's beneath the water, the part you can't see, is your subconscious mind. So which part do you think really drives our behavior? The subconscious. We all have certain beliefs about ourselves on a subconscious level that prevent us from achieving our potential. Any negative beliefs you have about yourself or your abilities act as an anchor that is holding you back from achieving certain things in life.

Our actions are controlled by our subconscious mind, and if our conscious mind is not in harmony with our belief system or our subconscious mind, our actions will not produce any results. The purpose of the subconscious mind is to keep us consistent with our identity and how we describe ourselves to others.

"We become what we say. We become our self-image, matching to our self-belief."

Negative/Limiting Beliefs

The mind is a very interesting entity and easily influenced. Did you know that we hurt ourselves just by our thoughts? Have you ever had a situation where on a subconscious level, not knowing that you are doing it, you talk yourself into having the worse pain ever or where you talk yourself into being too afraid of something that you decide not to do it after all? Our brain believes what we tell it. If we think pain, we get pain; if we think fear, we get fear. The root cause of limiting beliefs stems from a fear of failure or fear of rejection. You might wish for a better position where you are employed, but deep down you might fear that you won't live up to the expectations that come with the position. This type of limiting belief was formed with positive intentions to protect you from the pain that would come from failure and not being able to live up to expectations and perhaps even being fired. All our mind is trying to do is protect us from the pain and agony that come with failure, disappointment, or rejection.

Everything starts with a thought, and if we think bad thoughts, bad things happen, but if we think good thoughts, good things happen.

Having the proper mind-set where your beliefs are in sync with your conscious mind is especially important and affects many different aspects in life, including happiness, success, relationships, career, health, and even finances. If you truly want to live a more fulfilling life and accomplish anything you want, you must change your mind-set and truly believe in yourself and that you deserve to have whatever it is you desire in just the way you want it.

Doing this is the key to lifelong success and happiness.

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