Wednesday, 30 March 2016
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The Sky Is Not the Limit - The Power Of Positivity
We often hear the phrase "The sky is the limit" and often we hear this when the people around us are expressing their negative feelings on the topic at hand. But do you know that there is another phrase that contradicts this cliché? The phrase "nothing is set in stone" is the one that many successful people use whenever they try or aim for something and that, with the power of positivity, can make anything in this world possible.
The Power of Positivity
People who are successful use the power of being positive in everything they do. One of the concepts that is practiced in positivity is the law of attraction. The law of attraction might be a scientific concept but it is never truer and more applicable than to our society today. Many researchers believe that what people surround themselves with becomes their own actions and thoughts later on. It might not be obvious or apparent at the start and this surprises many when their actions or feelings are observed later on. This is the reason many sociologists or therapists recommend that individuals should surround themselves with positive things to ward off negative feelings.
Another area of being successful is to envision one's own desires and put it into action. Oftentimes, one wants to achieve something but lacks the desire to see it through. Many people blame others for their failure to reach their goals which produces negative results as well. When one wants to become successful, it is important to focus and put their thoughts into actions and carry the responsibilities that come with achieving what they want in life. By taking responsibilities and initiative, one is more concentrated and motivated to reach their goals in life.
What to do to Harness Positivity
When people want changes to happen to their life, they need to understand that they have to leave their comfort zone and start taking charge of their lives. It may be uncomfortable at the start and even cause friendships to end, but sometimes changes can be awkward but may also be the best thing to happen to your life. Cut the negativity that runs in your life - people who you think will drag you down and negative thoughts and envision what you want your life to be. Surround yourself with positive things, find mentors, visualize what you want and you will wake up one day and realize that you have achieved what you want to do and are happier than you were before.
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Solution to Negative Thought & Feeling - Eckhart Tolle
Read more from the great Eckhart Tolle in his book:
Napoleon Hill's Top 10 Rules For Success
I have just started reading Napoleon Hill's book "Think And Grow Rich" and already in Chapter 1 I can see this book is going to be something special. I can feel it.
Grab yourself a copy here from Amazon UK, or if you are in the US try the lower image:
Or if you are in the US use this:
Monday, 21 March 2016
The Science To Making 2016 Your Best Year Ever - John Assaraf
Read more about John and his techniques here:
Sunday, 20 March 2016
Start Something That Matters
Inspiring stuff on a Sunday!
Hope it resonates with you as it did me.
Dave
x
Saturday, 19 March 2016
How to Build Rapport - Tony Robbins
Tony Robbins in London in April - Click HERE for tickets!
Or visit:
http://tiny.cc/tonyrobbinslondon
Friday, 18 March 2016
Thursday, 17 March 2016
The Critical 1st Step to Achieving Any Goal - John Assaraf
Read more about John and his techniques here:
Wednesday, 16 March 2016
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Thursday, 10 March 2016
It's Not Too Late to Reinvent Yourself
A great article by Linda Banks here I wanted to share with you...
As the mother with two daughters, I constantly told them that their futures are limitless and that they were strong, creative, and amazing young women. I banged that drum so long and loud that I think they got the message as they are now young adults and leaving my home to start their own lives. Unfortunately, I didn't always "walk the talk" because the image I held of myself was too often shaped by my fear of what other thought (or might think) of me. It's still a struggle to overcome the perceived judgments that other may make about me, but I've learned that I am responsible for my happiness and am the only person who can set limits on my dreams and what I ultimately achieve.
When I set out to run my first 5K, I'm sure nobody thought twice about it. No grand achievement to be sure. When I ran my first half marathon, it probably got some attention but naysayers likely figured that I'd reached the limits of my ability. When I became a marathoner, I'd be willing to bet the critics abounded with their judgments that I was "too slow" or "wasting my time" - or, quite possibly - any number of less polite remarks. However, when I started running ultra marathons and even finished my first 100 miler, I have no doubt that tongues wagged and the incredulous question was asked, "Who does she think she is?!"
I'm not the type of person who likes to attract attention - especially any sort of negative attention. Frankly, telling my running stories is uncomfortable for me because I still worry how I am perceived. However, I willingly accept the risk of being misunderstood and criticism for being boastful if it reaches even one woman who chooses to make a positive change in her life as a result.
Here's the simple truth: I love running and motivating other women to run. It's rewarding to see a passion ignited. But it's not just about running. It's about overcoming your fears, allowing yourself to believe you are capable of some dream bigger than you dream today, and not being afraid to fail as many times as it takes to realize your dream. The reason I feel the need to share my stories is to prove that, if I achieve more than most people have judged me capable of accomplishing, then you can, too.
Spreading the word has been incredibly rewarding. A friend shared with me that she was inspired to go back to school to pursue education that she'd put off. Another friend told me that she challenged a group of women in her neighborhood to choose a goal that would improve and enrich their lives or the lives of others. They have become "accountability buddies" by helping each other stay focused and motivated. It's stories like those that absolutely make my heart sing and let me know that my stories are worth sharing and can help others find their hidden inner strengths.
So I'd ask you to answer this simple question:
"Who do you think you are?"
As the mother with two daughters, I constantly told them that their futures are limitless and that they were strong, creative, and amazing young women. I banged that drum so long and loud that I think they got the message as they are now young adults and leaving my home to start their own lives. Unfortunately, I didn't always "walk the talk" because the image I held of myself was too often shaped by my fear of what other thought (or might think) of me. It's still a struggle to overcome the perceived judgments that other may make about me, but I've learned that I am responsible for my happiness and am the only person who can set limits on my dreams and what I ultimately achieve.
When I set out to run my first 5K, I'm sure nobody thought twice about it. No grand achievement to be sure. When I ran my first half marathon, it probably got some attention but naysayers likely figured that I'd reached the limits of my ability. When I became a marathoner, I'd be willing to bet the critics abounded with their judgments that I was "too slow" or "wasting my time" - or, quite possibly - any number of less polite remarks. However, when I started running ultra marathons and even finished my first 100 miler, I have no doubt that tongues wagged and the incredulous question was asked, "Who does she think she is?!"
I'm not the type of person who likes to attract attention - especially any sort of negative attention. Frankly, telling my running stories is uncomfortable for me because I still worry how I am perceived. However, I willingly accept the risk of being misunderstood and criticism for being boastful if it reaches even one woman who chooses to make a positive change in her life as a result.
Here's the simple truth: I love running and motivating other women to run. It's rewarding to see a passion ignited. But it's not just about running. It's about overcoming your fears, allowing yourself to believe you are capable of some dream bigger than you dream today, and not being afraid to fail as many times as it takes to realize your dream. The reason I feel the need to share my stories is to prove that, if I achieve more than most people have judged me capable of accomplishing, then you can, too.
Spreading the word has been incredibly rewarding. A friend shared with me that she was inspired to go back to school to pursue education that she'd put off. Another friend told me that she challenged a group of women in her neighborhood to choose a goal that would improve and enrich their lives or the lives of others. They have become "accountability buddies" by helping each other stay focused and motivated. It's stories like those that absolutely make my heart sing and let me know that my stories are worth sharing and can help others find their hidden inner strengths.
So I'd ask you to answer this simple question:
"Who do you think you are?"
Wednesday, 9 March 2016
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5 Ways to Increase Confidence & Improve Relationships - Brian Tracy
Read more from Brian Tracy here:
Sunday, 6 March 2016
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Want to Improve Your Self-Confidence?
Improve Self-Confidence - Model the 7 Habits of Highly Self-Confident People
There is no doubt that one sure way to improve self-confidence is to model highly self-confident people.
Self-confidence is all about believing in yourself, your own worth, your power and abilities, regardless of the situation you are in.
A lot of people believe that self-confidence comes from the possession of high skill sets or knowledge. While being excellent in a particular area of expertise can give you a sense of high self-worth, it is not a necessarily a prerequisite for self-confidence.
People who have high self-confidence have a strong sense of assurance and belief in themselves. They exude calmness, composure and self-awareness, and that is because, they have formed a set of habits that have become part of who they are and how they live their life.
So, let's look at these habits in more detail:
HABIT 1: Keep Your Word - To Yourself And Others
This sounds very simple - but often it isn't.
For example, how often do you tell yourself you're going to do something and then you don't, like exercise perhaps? How often do you NOT keep your promise to others?
Whenever this happens, not only is there an underlying feeling of dissatisfaction within yourself but also you are providing your subconscious mind with evidence that you don't do what you say you will... that you are someone whom can not be trusted.
This is incredibly destructive to your self-confidence, because you don't get to trust and know who you say you are and do. You say one thing, but don't deliver, and this costs you your trust in yourself and your self-confidence.
High self-confident people understand the importance of keeping their word. They understand that coming from this space of integrity, where their word is law, IS the key to accessing their own power and self-confidence, and in my opinion, is also the most important habit that leads to success in life.
The trick is to start making smaller promises that you know you won't let yourself or others down. Be honest with yourself. Don't say yes to something when you know you can't fit it in.
Baby steps are the key here. If you try to do too much too soon, you will inevitably let something slip, and guess who will be watching?
HABIT 2: Choose Positive Self Talk
The primary keyword here is CHOOSE. No matter how many successes we have or how many things we do well, we continually doubt ourselves and our abilities.
It might have something to do with the fact that over 75% of what we think is negative, which is completely counterproductive. With these kinds of statistics, it's no wonder we struggle to feel good about ourselves.
One of the most important changes we can make in our life is choosing our self-talk.
Highly self-confident people have learned the habit of catching negative thoughts before they can have an effect on their moods, feelings and performance. They consciously choose to cancel these thoughts and replace them with positive empowering thoughts instead.
They have formed the habit of saying: stop, cancel or pass, whenever they catch a negative thought... not giving any power to that thought... not reacting to it.
Affirmations are a very powerful way of re-educating our minds to think empowering thoughts rather than the counterproductive negative thoughts.
So CHOOSE to improve self-confidence by choosing positive thoughts and practice these using affirmations.
HABIT 3: Focus On Your Strengths
Lack of self-confidence is a result of losing sight of our great qualities, and exaggerating our flaws instead.
High self-confident people know their strength and focus on what they can do, rather than what they can't.
When you think you are not good at something, try to consciously focus on the qualities that you have that are important to carry out that task.
For example, if you are doing public speaking and are not confident at delivering a speech, but you are a great researcher, writer and organiser... focus on these attributes instead, and know that you can be confident and proud of the content of that speech. Focusing on the great content will make the delivery of the speech less significant.
HABIT 4: Be Courageous
Get out of your head and just do it!
Low self-confident people tend to procrastinate and worry. They end up being hung up over negative outcomes and failures of the past, and they can't seem to find the courage to move forward.
Highly self-confident people have learned that in order to succeed, they can create the possibility of being courageous anytime they want... this way, even if they are afraid, they can choose to take action... in spite of fear!
You see COURAGE is not acting without fear; courage is acting in spite of fear.
When you make it a habit of being courageous you will increase self-confidence, because you are more likely to give the things you want a go, and when you are more focused on the doing rather than the thinking and worrying, you've overcome half the battle.
HABIT 5: Act and Feel Important
High self-confidence people have a habit of thinking highly of themselves through the way they behave and the image they portray. They have high levels of energy.
If we were to look at their behaviour, you will notice that self-confident people stand up for themselves and speak up when it is appropriate.
The image of self-confidence is also portrayed by the physiology and body language, by way they look after their body and the way they dress.
Do you see many self-confident people who walk around with slumped shoulders and are dressed badly?
No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are, so make it a priority to look good and feel important.
Here are some basic things you can do at the physical level to improve self-confidence... by modeling the image that highly self-confident people portray:
There is no doubt that High Self-Confident people have an attitude of gratitude. I'm talking about heartfelt gratitude and not so much about forced gratitude, because... there is a difference.
How do you recognize the difference between forced gratitude and heartfelt gratitude?
If you've ever expressed gratitude by starting a sentence with, "At least... " you understand the meaning of forced gratitude. For example... at least I have food on the table, or... at least I have a good job, etc. We force ourselves to feel grateful, but this is coming from emptiness and it isn't a long-lasting habit, because as soon as our circumstances change, we may not feel the same.
Heartfelt gratitude is a much deeper feeling. It is a feeling of appreciation and connection with life itself, which when present, gratitude triggers positive feedback loops.
This is the secret habit that high self-confidence people rely on to get access to this amazing positive mental attitude that they have.
So, to improve self-confidence start the habit of being grateful.
An exercise you can do everyday is to spend 5 minutes acknowledging the small things you like about yourself, things that make you feel self-confident and successful right now.
You can write these down in a gratitude journal and review them weekly.
Another powerful thing to do is find an unsuspecting or unlikely target to unleash your gratitude upon.
Gratitude often works best where you would least expect it to. Perhaps you can show appreciation or be grateful to a friend or family member, or you have seen a beautiful tree or flower that brightens your day, perhaps appreciate your favourite song, or a really good hug... you will be surprised how many things you will find that you can appreciate and be grateful for everyday!
HABIT 7: Focus On Contributing To Others
People with low self-confidence tend to focus too much time on their own problems and flaws, they undervalue what they are capable of, and spend too much time being critical of themselves.
They get caught up in this kind of thinking and as a result feel low in self-confidence.
High self-confident people focus on the needs of other people, they take the attention away from themselves and focus on how they can be of service and contribute to others.
The more they contribute to the world, the more they are rewarded with personal recognition and success.
So, to help increase self-confidence, the one thing you can do IS stop focusing on yourself and start contributing and helping others!
Self-confidence is all about believing in yourself, your own worth, your power and abilities, regardless of the situation you are in.
A lot of people believe that self-confidence comes from the possession of high skill sets or knowledge. While being excellent in a particular area of expertise can give you a sense of high self-worth, it is not a necessarily a prerequisite for self-confidence.
People who have high self-confidence have a strong sense of assurance and belief in themselves. They exude calmness, composure and self-awareness, and that is because, they have formed a set of habits that have become part of who they are and how they live their life.
So, let's look at these habits in more detail:
HABIT 1: Keep Your Word - To Yourself And Others
This sounds very simple - but often it isn't.
For example, how often do you tell yourself you're going to do something and then you don't, like exercise perhaps? How often do you NOT keep your promise to others?
Whenever this happens, not only is there an underlying feeling of dissatisfaction within yourself but also you are providing your subconscious mind with evidence that you don't do what you say you will... that you are someone whom can not be trusted.
This is incredibly destructive to your self-confidence, because you don't get to trust and know who you say you are and do. You say one thing, but don't deliver, and this costs you your trust in yourself and your self-confidence.
High self-confident people understand the importance of keeping their word. They understand that coming from this space of integrity, where their word is law, IS the key to accessing their own power and self-confidence, and in my opinion, is also the most important habit that leads to success in life.
The trick is to start making smaller promises that you know you won't let yourself or others down. Be honest with yourself. Don't say yes to something when you know you can't fit it in.
Baby steps are the key here. If you try to do too much too soon, you will inevitably let something slip, and guess who will be watching?
HABIT 2: Choose Positive Self Talk
The primary keyword here is CHOOSE. No matter how many successes we have or how many things we do well, we continually doubt ourselves and our abilities.
It might have something to do with the fact that over 75% of what we think is negative, which is completely counterproductive. With these kinds of statistics, it's no wonder we struggle to feel good about ourselves.
One of the most important changes we can make in our life is choosing our self-talk.
Highly self-confident people have learned the habit of catching negative thoughts before they can have an effect on their moods, feelings and performance. They consciously choose to cancel these thoughts and replace them with positive empowering thoughts instead.
They have formed the habit of saying: stop, cancel or pass, whenever they catch a negative thought... not giving any power to that thought... not reacting to it.
Affirmations are a very powerful way of re-educating our minds to think empowering thoughts rather than the counterproductive negative thoughts.
So CHOOSE to improve self-confidence by choosing positive thoughts and practice these using affirmations.
HABIT 3: Focus On Your Strengths
Lack of self-confidence is a result of losing sight of our great qualities, and exaggerating our flaws instead.
High self-confident people know their strength and focus on what they can do, rather than what they can't.
When you think you are not good at something, try to consciously focus on the qualities that you have that are important to carry out that task.
For example, if you are doing public speaking and are not confident at delivering a speech, but you are a great researcher, writer and organiser... focus on these attributes instead, and know that you can be confident and proud of the content of that speech. Focusing on the great content will make the delivery of the speech less significant.
HABIT 4: Be Courageous
Get out of your head and just do it!
Low self-confident people tend to procrastinate and worry. They end up being hung up over negative outcomes and failures of the past, and they can't seem to find the courage to move forward.
Highly self-confident people have learned that in order to succeed, they can create the possibility of being courageous anytime they want... this way, even if they are afraid, they can choose to take action... in spite of fear!
You see COURAGE is not acting without fear; courage is acting in spite of fear.
When you make it a habit of being courageous you will increase self-confidence, because you are more likely to give the things you want a go, and when you are more focused on the doing rather than the thinking and worrying, you've overcome half the battle.
HABIT 5: Act and Feel Important
High self-confidence people have a habit of thinking highly of themselves through the way they behave and the image they portray. They have high levels of energy.
If we were to look at their behaviour, you will notice that self-confident people stand up for themselves and speak up when it is appropriate.
The image of self-confidence is also portrayed by the physiology and body language, by way they look after their body and the way they dress.
Do you see many self-confident people who walk around with slumped shoulders and are dressed badly?
No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are, so make it a priority to look good and feel important.
Here are some basic things you can do at the physical level to improve self-confidence... by modeling the image that highly self-confident people portray:
- Good posture - walk confidently, stand up straight and tall with shoulders back and head up, and make eye contact.
- Dress sharp - look presentable and smart. When you are dressed well, doesn't that instantly make you feel great and important?
- Get your energy up - listen to upbeat music to instantly get energy up, and exercise regularly. Not only will exercise give you energy, but also the side effect is... great physical appearance... which will also help to improve self-confidence.
There is no doubt that High Self-Confident people have an attitude of gratitude. I'm talking about heartfelt gratitude and not so much about forced gratitude, because... there is a difference.
How do you recognize the difference between forced gratitude and heartfelt gratitude?
If you've ever expressed gratitude by starting a sentence with, "At least... " you understand the meaning of forced gratitude. For example... at least I have food on the table, or... at least I have a good job, etc. We force ourselves to feel grateful, but this is coming from emptiness and it isn't a long-lasting habit, because as soon as our circumstances change, we may not feel the same.
Heartfelt gratitude is a much deeper feeling. It is a feeling of appreciation and connection with life itself, which when present, gratitude triggers positive feedback loops.
This is the secret habit that high self-confidence people rely on to get access to this amazing positive mental attitude that they have.
So, to improve self-confidence start the habit of being grateful.
An exercise you can do everyday is to spend 5 minutes acknowledging the small things you like about yourself, things that make you feel self-confident and successful right now.
You can write these down in a gratitude journal and review them weekly.
Another powerful thing to do is find an unsuspecting or unlikely target to unleash your gratitude upon.
Gratitude often works best where you would least expect it to. Perhaps you can show appreciation or be grateful to a friend or family member, or you have seen a beautiful tree or flower that brightens your day, perhaps appreciate your favourite song, or a really good hug... you will be surprised how many things you will find that you can appreciate and be grateful for everyday!
HABIT 7: Focus On Contributing To Others
People with low self-confidence tend to focus too much time on their own problems and flaws, they undervalue what they are capable of, and spend too much time being critical of themselves.
They get caught up in this kind of thinking and as a result feel low in self-confidence.
High self-confident people focus on the needs of other people, they take the attention away from themselves and focus on how they can be of service and contribute to others.
The more they contribute to the world, the more they are rewarded with personal recognition and success.
So, to help increase self-confidence, the one thing you can do IS stop focusing on yourself and start contributing and helping others!
Wednesday, 2 March 2016
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